Let me introduce the writers here at On Eggshells.
I’m Ginny. I started out with a psychology degree and have worked with abused women and children in one way or another my entire life, really, including working many years for several agencies in social services. It’s a tough job, with a high burn out rate. When I hit the “I can’t face this anymore” stage I ended up going back to school to get a second degree in Writing to convince hiring types that I can do more than my work history implies.
Claire also needed a new career, and went back to school at the same time I did to get her degree in Writing. We had a whole lot of classes together. We got to be good friends that way and learned each other’s backgrounds pretty well. We both grew up in homes that were dysfunctional, in wildly different ways. You’ll hear more from both of us on that as time goes on.
This blog came about after Claire realized that she was in a verbally abusive marriage. She was working on getting out of the situation and realized that most of the help for abused women wasn’t available unless there was physical abuse involved. That’s when we decided to pool our experience and writing abilities to offer help other people in the same situation.
While we will be talking a lot about domestic verbal abuse and men let me be clear, men are not the only verbal abusers. The same things apply to male victims of verbal abuse. But even in my professional background I have more experience with male abusers and female victims. The reason is that women turn to other women for help in these situations. Men are far less likely to seek help at all, and if they do, they tend to talk to other men. So I’ve never actually had a man just blurt out that he’s in a bad situation and needs help. If you are a guy, verbal abuse against men works the same way. Just switch the gender tags and keep reading.
Neither Claire nor I are using our real names. We will be talking about our lives and experiences in a personal way and don’t really want our families to have to deal with awkward questions. It’s also for safety reasons. I’ve dealt with some scary types over the years of working with domestic abuse. I’ve been stalked by some of them and have been physically attacked when I encountered others in public places. So, for both our safety, we use pen names. Stories or experiences we write about will be real, however. We reserve our fiction writing for other places.